Exactly one year ago, my 5-year relationship ended abruptly, at a time when I was 110% sure that we were on the brink of getting engaged. I’ve certainly moved on by now, but even just typing that first sentence makes me choke up as I recall that experience.
When you wholeheartedly commit to something — anything — for so long, whether it be college, a relationship, a living situation, a student organization, a job, a pet, a car, etc., it’s hard to imagine your life otherwise. Letting go is never easy; the mere idea of doing so can be painful. The moment the last fiber of connection is broken, overwhelming feelings of emptiness start to darken the place where there was once light.
As the darkness settles in, we seek comfort; a bit of warmth for our cold hearts, a brief reprieve from the yearning.
Walking away from something you love can seem like an impossible quest, but we humans are resilient. In the times you feel the weakest, you might just find your greatest strength. You can find your comfort from within.
You can choose to see the emptiness as darkness. Or you can choose to realize that you now have extra space in your life that wasn’t there before.
So what can you do with that newfound free energy, time, or headspace? Start moving forward; move toward whatever makes you feel happiest or in your element. Do something productive and/or fun. This is a blessing & opportunity to fill that space with your passion.
I know it’s not going to be easy.
You likely won’t feel like it’s helping at all.
I’ve been there before.
But I can assure you that moving forward, no matter how slowly, will build momentum toward a stronger, shinier you. It gets better.
For me, it started to get better when I went back to my roots & revisited my passion. This is the story of how a simple pot of Chicken Adobo helped me to heal & find fulfillment. I’m here to help you get yours too.
[Click photo below to watch Episode 2.1 – Chicken Adobo for the Soul]
Recipe: Adobong Sitaw (Chicken Adobo with Long Green Beans)
– 1 entire bulb of garlic
– 1.5 lbs of boneless skinless chicken thighs
– 1 bunch (about 3 cups) sitaw (long green beans — if you can’t find these, fresh or frozen french green beans can work)
– 1/2 cup white vinegar
– 1/2 cup soy sauce (Marca Pina is my favorite brand! Bragg’s Liquid Aminos work if you’re paleo!)
– 3 tbsp. freshly ground black pepper
– rice (if you want it)
1. Prep your ingredients
– Roughly chop garlic.
– Slice the tips off the sitaw & cut into 3-4 inch pieces.
– Cut chicken into large chunks & place in large pot.
– (if you’re planning to serve it with rice, now’s a good time to get that going)
2. Braise the chicken
– Add garlic & vinegar to the pot to join the chicken.
– Set heat to medium high, then WALK AWAY (this is good practice for letting go & having self-control)!
– Don’t touch anything for like 10 minutes or so, until the vinegar is almost gone (just like I wouldn’t recommend contacting an ex til the feelings are almost gone, haha just kidding.. kind of.).
– You can, however, add half of the black pepper after about 5 minutes (I’m out of metaphors.)
– taste the sauce. if it’s too sour, let it simmer for a few more minutes until it’s to your liking (like I said, sometimes moving forward to the next step can happen slower than you’d like).
3. Add your personal touch (it starts with you!)
– Turn down the heat to medium (sometimes you need to cool off before moving forward)
– Add the soy sauce & remaining pepper. Stir it up! You’re almost there!
– Taste it again. If you’d like it more savory, add a bit more soy sauce. If it’s too savory for you, add some water (figure out what works for you — this is Chicken Adobo for YOUR Soul).
– Once you’re happy with it, add the sitaw.
– Turn the heat back up to medium high. Stir the sitaw into the adobo for about 3-4 minutes, ladling sauce onto the veggies as you go.
– Enjoy! ❤
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