Carne asada french fries. Freshly baked mac and cheese. Chocolate covered pretzels. These foods, paired with the comfort of my faith, family, and friends, can generally help me overcome just about anything.
Those close to me know that I somehow end up in charge of a lot of things. I’m a control freak. Just kidding. But really, it’s not necessarily by position, but I always choose to be a leader; I choose to take responsibility for the well-being of those around me. Whether it’s spearheading a project, or simply recommending an awesome restaurant, ensuring that others have a positive experience has always been a priority of mine.
And as a leader, when a bad situation unfolds “on your watch,” no matter the circumstances, you can’t help but feel partially responsible. In seeking comfort, I am often reminded that hindsight is 20/20; the shoulda-woulda-couldas are always clear upon reassessment and the only thing to do is move forward.
But you know what? I’m tired of it. I’m sick of reactive action. I’m sick of the conversations and remedies that only occur as a result of trauma. To start creating pure, positive change, we need to stop letting good work be tainted by the bad situation that prompted it. Our paradigm needs to shift, making kindness and compassion a lifestyle, not just a tool used to fix problems.
This brings me back to those carne asada french fries — what are we seeking when we turn to comfort food?
These are the things that are lacking when we’re not filled with enough faith, hope, and love.
We were all put on this world for a purpose. I also believe that we were not meant to live in isolation from one another. We’re here to connect with and comfort others — strengthening family and friendships and building strong communities. Make a conscious effort to feed those around you with the living comfort food of familiarity, affirmation, and support:
– call a friend to see how they’re doing
– volunteer to help out a neighbor
– take the time to smile and thank your bus driver or waitress.
Your kindness and compassion can go much further than you’d think, making someone even more joyfully full than a personal box of carne asada fries.
Dining at Tiffany’s