Hey everyone!! Thanks so much to those of you that tuned in & watched Chicken Adobo for the Soul. From what I’ve heard, many of you across the country made adobo last week! How’d it turn out?? (If you missed it — click here!)
Last week, we talked about moving forward after hard times. This week we are talking about the next step, moving on — especially in terms of relationships. How do you decipher the distinction between a meaningless rebound and your next significant other?
Before figuring out if someone is the kind of person you want to be with, you must first figure out what kind of person YOU want to be. Period.
Before entering a relationship with anyone, friendship or romantic, it’s crucial to know yourself fully; it’s important to be a whole person. Be the purest version of yourself, unadulterated by what you think others want you to be. Get comfortable with yourself.
To illustrate this process, tonight’s episode is about how whole, natural foods can teach us lessons about being whole, pure people! Plus, we get to get nice & cozy with some carbs. ;)
In times of vulnerability, it can be tempting to find or complete yourself in another person — they can become your safety blanket, your hiding place, your source of approval. This can seem satisfying, but in the end, it’s not fulfilling. In fact, it can be downright dangerous.
Getting comfortable with yourself isn’t an easy feat — it’s a process that can feel like a war. So, if we are fighting to find ourselves while simultaneously trying to pursue a relationship with someone else, everyone gets hurt — you are distracted from conquering the battles you must face, while the other person is put at risk of becoming a casualty.
That sounds dramatic, but it’s a theme I’ve noticed lately about the relationships unraveling around me.
If you’re a visual person, think of a healthy relationship as a venn diagram. Each person should have a whole circle & share some with their partner. If one of the circles is incomplete, their unique characteristics will fall out & their existence will be dependent on that space they share with the other person. Eventually, that broken circle will have to fuse into the other. No bueno. Everyone needs some space & love for themselves, too!
I know a lot of my closest friends & dear family are all about serving & giving in relationships — it’s a beautiful thing. But I want to leave you with a quote from one of my favorite books that can keep us in check about loving others from a place of wholeness:
“When you are overgiving, you are not living in abundance, but in scarcity. When you give from a place of service, honesty, and fullness, you are left feeling revitalized. When you give from a place of responsibility and obligation, you negate the gift and nothing changes. You may in fact be left feeling resentful and drained.”
“What lack are you trying to fill in yourself by overgiving?”
- 29 Gifts, Cami Walker
Sending good vibes & prayers to you all as you find fulfillment. For me, wholeness is about serving from an inner place of faith. My circle would be pretty broken without it. God bless <3.
Dining At Tiffany’s
Sweet Potato Rosemary Pasta Sauce Recipe (Vegan)
I love this recipe because it’s a good framework for other recipes. For example, I created a similar recipe back in the day when I worked at the San Diego Food Bank: Carrot Sauce – 2 Ways! Feel free to vary the herbs & spices. I imagine sage or thyme would make a good substitute for the rosemary. Get creative! & let me know if you want any suggestions based on those spices that have been hanging out in your pantry!
If you’re not vegan, you can also serve it with meat! It tastes particularly delicious with pork tenderloin. Chicken works too! If you’re not into carbs (no one’s mad..) you can use roasted spaghetti squash or just slap this sauce directly on meat, you primal thang! ;)
- 2 large sweet potatoes (or yams. the orange ones)
- 2 tsp. fresh chopped rosemary
- 2-3 cloves garlic
- 1 can of all natural coconut milk
- light oil (like olive oil or grapeseed oil)
- 1 box of whole grain rotini pasta
- 1 tsp. ground cumin
- 1 dash (or MOAR if you like spicy) ground cayenne pepper
- 1 tbsp. korean pepper powder (if you don’t have this, try smoked paprika)
- 1/2 tbsp. ground coriander
- salt & freshly ground black pepper to taste
1. Prep ingredients
- Bring water to a boil & cook pasta following directions on box
- Chop garlic & rosemary finely
- Poke each potato with a fork about 4-5 times to vent
- Place potatoes on a microwave safe plate and top with a damp paper towel
- Microwave for 5 minutes, flip them, then microwave for 5 more minutes
- Cut potatoes in half & let them cool for a bit
2. Get Saucy!
- Heat oil to medium/medium high heat
- Saute garlic & rosemary until the garlic is golden brown, then transfer to small bowl
- In a blender or food processor, alternate adding sweet potato, coconut milk, & garlic/rosemary mixture
- WARNING: Don’t overcrowd the mixer. Also, make sure that the sweet potatoes are completely cooled down. Trust. (I may or may not have broken a few blenders back in the day, lol!)
- Once the mixture is fully blended & smooth, transfer back to the saute pan. (If it’s too thick for your liking, add a bit of water and/or oil)
- Stir in spice mixture & reheat on medium high for 4-6 minutes
3. Put it all together!
- Ladle the sauce onto the pasta
- If you want to get fancy, garnish with your leftover rosemary (or just put on your sweatpants & get down with your bad self ;D)
Enjoy, carb lovers! <3